Here is what happened when I went on match.com:
When I first went to the site, there was an invitation to “browse before buying”. So I went to browse and in less than two seconds found a picture of a handsome man and clicked on it to read his profile. It was a though I had made him up in my head. He was in his mid-fifties, lives in Middleburg, had been in the horse business and loves horses, divorced, his kids were grown (youngest in college), he had traveled all over the world, lived in a foreign country and wanted to travel more, plus he practiced yoga. There were pictures of him doing out doors things and at a black tie gala – oh, and did I mention he enjoys the performing arts and practices yoga? I frantically joined Match in order to meet THIS man in particular and set about writing up my profile. It took several hours to get my profile just right ( I am a writer, I can’t just put anything out there) and when I finally finished and searched for this guy to show him how utterly perfect we would be together, his profile had been removed. AAAAGGGGHHH!
Frantic, I immediately called Match and asked to be removed. The explanation I offered was, “I don’t want to meet men, I just want to meet that man.” Match, of course, would not hear of it. The understanding customer service rep did upgrade my account for free, however- oh great (she wrote sarcastically).
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That was late night on a Thursday.
I left my profile up over the weekend and by Monday morning there were 356 responses.
Here is what I learned about match pretty quickly. This is far from news for anyone who has tried it.
The majority of men lie about their:
- height– they always say they are taller than they are
- income– they tell you they make more than they do
- activities– they sound much more active than they are (Every man except one I communicated with who put yoga on their activity list had tried yoga only once. The exception really practiced Qui gong.)
- physical fitness– they say they are in better physical condition than they really are
- commitment level– they say they are interested in love but, well… some might actually be but most seem to be just looking for sex