So I am hanging out with my friend, Candace in her charming little pied a terre on the Upper East Side of Manhattan this morning, indulging in reading a hard copy of the NEW YORK TIMES (one of my favorite Sunday morning activities) and low and behold a most encouraging article is found regarding my status as a educated single woman-
Stephanie Coontz’s Op-ed piece titled, “The M.R,S and the Ph.D”. Coontz debunks the longstanding myth of the 20th century that educated women have trouble finding husbands. Not that I am particularly out to find a husband at this point in the game but I am a hopeless romantic and am certainly open to being married in the future provided a good-looking male with the right characteristics and similar core values comes along.
At any rate, I found some encouragement in Coontz findings. She claims that women can rest easy that the old ideas about educated women and finding mates are outdated.
The old idea is this:
“As Kate Bolick wrote in a much-discussed article in The Atlantic last fall, American women face “a radically shrinking pool of what are traditionally considered to be ‘marriageable’ men — those who are better educated and earn more than they do.” Educated women worry that they are scaring away potential partners, and pundits claim that those who do marry will end up with unsatisfactory matches. They point to outdated studies suggesting that women with higher earnings than their husbands do more housework to compensate for the threat to their mates’ egos, and that men who earn less than their wives are more likely to experience erectile dysfunction.”
The new reality is this:
“For a woman seeking a satisfying relationship as well as a secure economic future, there has never been a better time to be or become highly educated.”
“…over the past 30 years, these prejudices have largely disappeared. By 1996, intelligence and education had moved up to No. 5 (from No. 11 in 1956) on men’s ranking of desirable qualities in a mate. The desire for a good cook and housekeeper had dropped to 14th place, near the bottom of the 18-point scale. The sociologist Christine B. Whelan reports that by 2008, men’s interest in a woman’s education and intelligence had risen to No. 4, just after mutual attraction, dependable character and emotional stability.”
Coontz goes on to site statistics that prove her theory.
Now, I am college educated and perhaps soon will be pursuing a Ph. D. so I am really excited. As I get more educated, men are increasingly likely to choose an educated woman. The odds are totally in my favor.
How cool is that?