Valentine’s is traditionally the day that sweethearts exchange tokens of affection. For single people this can be a reminder of the state of “singleness” resulting in discomfort or sadness. I have experienced this myself and dreaded February 14 as a day of isolation and loneliness.
Happily, with some effort on my part, that has changed.
Over the many years I have spent single, I have learned a very important lesson:
I need to be the most important person in my life – Period.
So I have decided to make Valentine’s the day I celebrate love for myself just as a lover or partner might. I buy myself a card and/or flowers, indulge in a chocolate or three and take myself out to a movie or other treat like a pedicure. I avoid places where there will be loads of couples, like restaurants. I tell myself, “I love you”, throughout the day too – which may seem silly but it is fun.
The result: February 14th is now a day I look forward to with the enthusiastic anticipation of a second grader who will receive a shoebox full of cards and treats.
Whether you are single or partnered, you are the one person you will be with and care for for your entire life – so, like the song says: love the one you’re with!
What are ways you can celebrate self love today?
Note: For a great meditation for self love look up Sarah Blondin’s “Loving and Listening to Yourself” from her Coming Home to Yourself series.