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Good Foundations



During my recent lingerie shopping binge (it has been a while since I bought new underthings) I have discovered what many women have know about for years, a little undergarment miracle called Spanx.  Spanx and other brands of support wear work all kinds of magic on less than photoshopped perfect bodies.  They lift things that need lifting, smooth out any undesirable lumps and generally suck stuff in so you don’t have to stand around at parties in your knit dress and hold your stomach in or keep your glutes squeezed in tight.


I purchased a fanny smother thing to wear under trousers and certain clingy skirts and two DKNY body smoothing slips -one in black and the other in a nude shade.


The wonderful sales associate at Nordstrom’s Pentagon City assured me that women of all ages and sizes wear these types of garments including movie stars and top fashion models.  This information made me feel better about spending the money on these items.


Do you use support foundations and if so, do you like how they make you look?



Going Brazilian Part VI: Trends in Bikini Waxing


Just when you thought the subject of bikini waxing was done, you are surprised by one last post regarding trends.  Yes, there are trends.

Creating shapes with the hair  at the top of the labia is a current trend according to Sue Ismiel, Executive Chair of Nad’s Natural Hair Removal. “Some of the most poplular shapes are the heartbreaker, the thunderstruck, the landing strip and the Bermuda triangle.”

Click here for a link to her video.

“I have had people request initials but that is really hard to do,” says Kimberly Austin of Bombshell salon in Richmond.


Heartbreaker:  heart shape design of pubic hair

Thunderstruck: a lightening bolt design of pubic hair

Landing strip: a small rectangle shape from the bottom of the underwear waste band to the top of the pubic bone or shorter

Postage stamp: a very small landing strip on

the pubic bone

Bermuda Triangle:  a triangle shape with the top points facing the hips and the bottom point at the top of the labia

For more on trends click here for an article in Glamour Magazine.

Thank you for bearing with me during this exploration.  Hopefully it has been informative at the very least.

I had my wax this morning and I feel great!  Looking forward to wearing a bathing suit over spring break next week without worry.

What is something that you do that helps you to feel confident and current?

Going Brazilian Part V: Tips for Bikini Wax Virgins




Tomorrow is the big day.  I have an appointment at Simple Spa in Charlottesville and in preparation for spring break I am going Brazilian. Though it is far from my first bikini wax experience, I couldn’t help thinking about women who might try this for the first time and how nice it would have been if someone had told me what to expect.  If you have been reading this series up to now you know how to prepare for your wax, what to look for in a salon.  Now it is time to get an idea of the procedure itself.

I remember being a bit intimidated at first.  I mean aside from my most recent wasband (remember I have two of them) and my gynecologist, that area of my body had remain unseen by another human being for 12 years or so.  The purpose of all this is to give you an idea so you can decide if this sort of  update to your look is for you.

So here is an outline of the procedure:

You should be escorted to a private treatment room in the salon where you will be asked to undress from the waist down (remember to keep some socks on unless you have neat, clean feet).

If you are shy (like I was when I started bikini waxing) the salon should offer a one -size -fits -all paper string bikini you can wear during the wax process.  You may also bring an extra pair of older panties to wear if you like, but be warned they will probably get wax on them. If the salon fails to offer the panties you may ask for them.

Once you are disrobed to your satisfaction, you will be asked to lie on the table.  Many salons use towels to cover up vulnerable areas if you like similar to how a massage therapist will use a towel to cover your breasts during a massage.

The wax should be warm rather than scalding and applied with something like a popsicle stick.  Audrey Nell Smith from Bombshell explains why the first time you wax is the worst:

“The first time is the hardest time but it gets easier each time you wax. Before you wax the first time the hair is pulled from the body the hair folic le is strong and the hair is strong making the pull effect of waxing the worst it will ever be. Once that bond is broken it takes less effort to remove the hair from the folicle and often after years hair stops growing all together. The pain is similar to quickly ripping a band aid off.”

You may be asked to put your legs in some interesting positions in order to get to some hard to reach places.

After your wax, your esthetician my apply some special cream and should advise you on how to deal with ingrown hairs.

Then you get dressed and go home to take a shower as you may feel a little sticky afterwards.

First timers should avoid sun exposure to the waxes area for a couple of days.

Audrey also suggests taking ibuprofen before your first wax to help control swelling or pain issues.

Tomorrow: trends in bikini waxing- you won’t want to miss that one!

Are there any other beauty topics you are interested in exploring?



Going Brazilian Part IV: Etiquette


Thank you for staying on this journey with me.  Just one or two more posts on this subject and it will be done.  If you are just signing on to Dating by Committee you will notice that this is the fourth installment.  If you are interested in the previous related posts, please click here for the most recent which has links to the other two as well.  We have already discussed some definitions for types of bikini waxing,  and what to look for in a salon.  Proper etiquette is the subject today.

You see, the positions that one must get in in order to properly remove hair in the bikini area and the very nature of the act call for a prescribed level of cleanliness.  In order for the experience to be as pleasant as possible (possible being the operative word in this case) for all parties involved, there are certain things one can do.

In order to get the perspective of the “other” person involved in bikini waxing, I called upon Audrey Nell Smith, an esthetician at Bombshell Salon in Richmond, Va.  Audrey has performed “a few thousand Brazilians,” she says, and one day allowed me to interview her while I was literally on the table

Proper Bikini/Brazilian Wax Etiquette According to Audrey:

  1. Be clean.  Shower the day of your wax and make sure all areas “down under’ are clean. Schedule your wax before your workout rather than after.  If you must workout before your wax, either shower afterwards or at least make an effort to wash the area to be waxed.  Audry suggests “being clean from front to back, cleaning the whole area.”
  2. Be on time.  Waxes are usually booked fairly tightly together so tardiness on your part may result in loosing your appointment.
  3. Have clean, neat feat or wear clean socks. Just a point of consideration for your waxologist.
  4. Exfoliate.  Exfoliation the night before helps to loosen the hair and rids the skin of excess skin cells which may effect the “grab” factor of the wax.
  5. Take an Ibeprofin beforehand.  If your skin is sensitive and you tend to get really pink after a wax, an ibeprofin will help reduce the swelling quicker.
  6. Get the No Scream Cream by Relax and Wax available online at http://www.dermstore.com/reviews_No+Scream+Cream_500311.htm.  If you are highly sensitive to pain using this special cream will help.
  7. Inform your Waxologist.  If you are having your period or have any medical conditions going on down “there”, let your waxologist know so she may be prepared.  If you are on your period you should wear a tampon or choose to reschedule your wax.

Can you think of anything else you might do that would constitute good manners in this situation?

Going Brazilian Part II: The basics


Two days ago I started blogging about bikini waxing and how this has become a normal part of grooming that many women entering the dating scene following a long term relationship may want to explore.  (To see my introduction to bikini waxing click here.) I pointed out in the post that if you have had only one sexual partner for the last 15 to 25 years you may be out of the loop on the trends because way back when you started dating that man bikini waxing was reserved for strippers and hookers.  Now it is a mainstream activity and the expectations of grooming “down there” may be a bit different than the last time you thought about it.

To confirm that other newly “divorced” middle aged women were interested in this topic I spoke with Kimberly Austin.  According to  Austin, a 5 year veteran “waxologist” at Bombshell Salon in Richmond, there has been an increase in middle aged divorcees waxing in the last several years. Says Austin, “Two years ago 20% of my waxing clients were over 30.  Now the breakdown is about 60% younger women and 40% older. Most of these women are coming in after a divorce.”  “Getting a wax can help you feel sexy and more vital.  It can be a factor in an older woman gaining confidence to try new things.”  says Victoria Snapp owner of Simple Spa  in Charlottesville who has had clients dramatically change their hair and try pole dancing after beginning waxing the bikini area.

It is pretty dramatic going from a full “bush” to nothing so Austin recommends starting with a standard bikini wax (tops of the inner thighs, plus a quarter inch in towards the labia and anything above the panty line) and moving inward a little more each time you wax until you are ready for none or next to none. “Most women go from a regular bikini wax and work their way up to a French wax (all hair off the back side of the buttocks, some hair on the labia) then to either a full Brazilian (everything) or a landing strip (everything except a small strip of hair from below the panty waistband to the top of the labia),” she explains.

Advice to consider:  Start out slowly and work your way up to “the full Monty”  if that is where you think you want to go.

Tomorrow I will explore salon cleanliness issues to ask about before booking your first appointment.

Do you think getting a bikini wax would make you feel sexier and more confident?