The other day I read a blog post by Suzy Weiss a dating coach for women over 40. In her blog, WHAT MEN REALLY WANT IN A WOMAN Suzy discusses the “calling issue” where she suggests that women should not call men until a relationship is established. She relates the story of a woman named Patty who called a man after the first date to invite him to a concert for which she had tickets and what happened next when the man didn’t call her. Suzy suggests that by calling the man, thus “chasing” him, the woman ruined her chances with him. I thought, maybe it was her having sex with him on their third date that killed that one but what do I know?
I am unsure how I feel about this topic of whether or not to call a man. I tend to lean towards getting to know someone as a friend before considering a romance (not that I have done that before but it is why I am working on that now) and so calling him seems just fine.
What are your thoughts? In the middle of life what should be one’s policy for calling? And for you coupled people: What is your story? Was there some sort of “chasing” thing set up to facilitate a “catch” or not. Please share your thoughts and stories.
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